The Missing Piece

So much of the work that I facilitate is centred around integrating the fragmented pieces of ourselves that become dislodged as a result of traumatic events.

In the face of overwhelming pain or loss, we often disconnect from our emotions as a protective mechanism—a means to survive.

However, in order to truly be whole and to embark on a path of healing, we must confront and integrate the feelings we were unable to process at the time of the trauma. If we neglect this necessary integration, our bodies will inevitably signal to us that something is amiss—manifesting in feelings of disconnection, anxiety, and a pervasive sense of unease.

I recently experienced the loss of my dear mum. The hardest thing I have ever faced in my life.

In the wake of her passing, I began to notice a subtle yet persistent feeling that I just didn’t feel quite right. While I was physically present and going through the motions of daily life—I felt as though I was merely a ghost. There was an overwhelming sense of detachment and emptiness that permeated my being.

So much of my learning happens within my sessions.

I suddenly found myself attracting clients who found themselves in a similar predicament.

A baseline of a feeling that something was not quite right, a feeling of being stuck, and not fully engaging with life.

Already so many of my sessions are centered around unresolved feelings connected to death, the loss of loved ones.

I was being shown a different perspective.

When we lose a loved one, often a part of us will choose to follow them, in an effort to remain close.

"When I lost you, I lost me,"

When a part of us departs to be with our loved ones, we become emotionally stuck in a liminal space between the living and the dead.

Life takes on a different texture; it feels distant, hollow, and not quite right.

The only pathway to reclaiming that lost part of ourselves is through the journey of feeling the pain—the sadness, the grief, the devastation that accompanies the loss of a loved one.

This process is challenging. It means having to confront what is true within us, which we can only do when we are ready.

The line between the living and the dead is thin, and it is important to recognize that we can still connect with and honor our loved ones without sacrificing our ability to live fully and thrive in our own lives.

Ultimately, what our loved ones desire most is for us to continue living, to find joy and purpose despite their absence.

As I have been guiding my clients back toward wholeness, I have simultaneously been on a journey to retrieve the part of myself that left when my mom left.

We all encounter loss and the reality of death at some point in our lives; it is an intrinsic part of the human experience.

By sharing our experiences, we not only support our own healing but also create a sense of community and understanding among those who are navigating similar journeys. It is through these shared narratives that we can find solace, connection, and ultimately, the strength to move forward.